Updated: 5 days ago
Are you an emotional eater or are you emotional about eating?
This distinction is often overlooked but it is crucial in how you move forward to heal this aspect of your food relationship.
What is emotional eating?
Emotional eating means you eat in response to emotions, independent of hunger. This can be subtle because typically we’ve made our way to food before we’ve even had the chance to notice, let alone realize, that there is something we are unwilling to sit with. You may turn to food to cope with emotions of boredom sadness, anxiousness, for comfort, or to enhance and prolong positive emotions such a happiness or excitement. You may also use food as an reward, for instance celebrating a hard day of work or reaching a goal.
We all emotionally eat from time to time and that’s okay.
Emotional eating is not bad in and of itself. Perhaps you used food as a coping tool when you didn’t have any other coping tools, it was reliable and a way to manage when things were overwhelming. However when food becomes our primary coping tool, is frequent and intense, or becomes out of our control that is when we need to examine this relationship and the underpinning dynamics.
What about being emotional about eating?
Being emotional about eating means your emotions are related to the food itself and how you feel about your food choices. This could look like guilt or regret after eating a particular food or even anger. For instance you’ve been on diet and eat a food that you have forbidden yourself from eating and as a response you get regretful or remorseful. These emotions can be reinforced by diet culture which is always tying morality to food or saying we should eat clean. This can spiral into emotional eating as you may sooth or numb these emotions with food, this can become a vicious cycle.
What are signs of emotional eating?
Eating when not hungry or full
Using food to sooth unpleasant emotions
Using food to distract or avoid situations
Using food as a reward
What are signs of being emotional about eating?
Feeling emotional about what you ate
Lingering regret or remorse over what you ate
Beliefs about food being good or bad
Rigid food rules like a shouldn’t eat this or must eat like this
How to deal with emotional eating?
Identify when eating for reasons beside hunger
Identify emotional triggers, the specific emotions that drive you to food
Make a list of things you do to sooth these specific emotions
Make a list of other things you can do to reward yourself
Non-attachment refers to refraining from over-identifying with or allowing our emotions to consume us. It means creating a buffer zone with your emotions, here’s how:
The first step is to foster awareness that there is an emotion you are unwilling to sit with or a situation or emotion that is driving us to food.
The second step is to allow the emotion to be there without attachment or judgement and with curiosity. You can do this by labeling the emotion, for instance; this is stress or this is overwhelm, anxiousness etc... This allows us detach from the emotion by saying this is x, verse I am x.
Notice how this sensation changes. If the sensation persist or intensifies you need to examine your thoughts. You may be having trigger thoughts that intensify the emotion, if so notice them and replace them with coping thoughts (thoughts that deescalate and sooth the emotion).
How to deal with being emotional about eating?
Examine any food rules you may have
Do you have any moralities tied to food? Good, bad, clean?
Examine how diet culture impacts your food choices or beliefs about how you ‘should’ eat
Reflect on these questions and ask yourself how these beliefs have served you, if at all, and how they hinder you. Then consciously decide that you want to break free from this pattern. Start by examining your thoughts and reframing your mindset with coping thoughts and new beliefs.
The key to overcoming emotional eating is really just to be present with what is there instead of turning away from it... and with being emotional about eating it’s about breaking free from mindsets and beliefs that hinder us.
At the end of the day these emotions just need to be felt and move through us, when we allow them to be there without attachment, over time these emotions come with less intensity and frequency.
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